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Tuesday, 2 August 2016

Recognising The Small Achievements

Often, it is all too easy to fall into the trap of focusing purely on what you are not currently capable of achieving in your life - whether that is because of your mental health condition or not. Only ever acknowledging what you may not be able to do, as opposed to what you can, has the potential to impact poorly on your self-esteem. It causes you to see yourself in a very negative light - that you are a failure, useless, pathetic, weak.

This type of self-loathing is not beneficial to you or your mental health. How can you expect to start recovering from your illness, if you only ever put yourself down? How can you expect to move on with your life and achieve your aspirations, if you are stuck in a mind set where you continuously criticise yourself? (To be quite honest, I'm being unbelievably hypocritical here, because I am a culprit of this type of thinking myself. I repeatedly criticise myself. As the saying goes, 'I am my own worst critic').

Anyway. Being surrounded by friends who appear to be achieving great things in their life can be discouraging. Obviously you are happy for them, but you're also kind of not. (I get jealous of them. There, I said it). I mean, that sounds pretty terrible of me, but I think I'm not the only one to feel this way sometimes (or I am the only one and I am just a bad person). The truth is, seeing those around you progress in life, when you feel unable to progress yourself, can make you feel like crap. It causes you to believe that you are not making any achievements in your own life - that everyone else is somehow a better person than you because they have managed to be successful in ways which you have not.

However, I believe it is vital to escape from this type of thinking. I know, I know, this is far easier said than done. How can you stop thinking like this, if you are so convinced that you are a complete failure in life?! But, it is important that you try. You must recognise even the small achievements that you make, that may not seem a big deal to others, but are a massive deal for you. We are all unique, we all find ourselves in different circumstances in life. It is impossible to compare ourselves to others, because we are nothing like anybody else. We all live completely different lives - and, for this exact reason, it is impossible to bear comparison between our achievements.

So, from now on, try and recognise those small achievements, however irrelevant they may seem. Maybe you got out of bed and got dressed for the first time this week. Perhaps you made the effort to meet with a friend, or ate out in public after years of avoidance - whatever it is, recognise it for the immense achievement that it is for you. I've said it before and I will say it again: fighting with a mental health condition is difficult. It can make even the simplest of tasks seem daunting, impossible even. So when you have the courage to overcome such an obstacle, that is an achievement in itself. And it is one you should be proud of.

Also, remember that just because you may not be able to achieve something at this point in your life, doesn't mean you'll never be able to. Give it time, be patient with yourself, and focus on your mental wellbeing...everything else will fall into place later, when the time is right.

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